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During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO

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[JeA] 그대가 잠든 사이(While you’re sleeping) MV (by officialBEG)

Everyone has their own problem. Some problems can’t be seen at all. And some people just don’t know where to seek for help.

Goodbye 2012! It’s been such a great year. Possibly the best year I’ve ever had in my life. New experiences, new things, new friends. The feelings I’ve never felt so much before when my life felt so flat. Happy, sad, excited, shocked, sympathy, care, less ignorant, awed, surprised, flattered, tears, pain, lonely, anger, fun, etc etc and most of all, love from loving and being loved.

I learned new things. I felt new things. I experienced new things. I changed a lot, to be a better someone. I love and care more. I had a lot of fun with the people I love. I was given Penguin, my huggable friend. I bought G, my guitar, my buddy, who comforts me when I feel sad, down and have mood swings. I bought a pair of cool headphones, who protects me whenever I’m scared of the thunderstorm. haha..

and then I did certain things I’d never done before. I started to plan the next step of my life. I stopped posting my thoughts randomly on social media, because I realized nobody cares. I started to control my thoughts, trying to stop overthinking, stopping myself to be too much of a thinker, since it affects my mood and feelings, a lot. I never thought I’d struggle so much and work so hard to protect the people I care about, to not lose them in my life. and I never thought I’d love so much, my family, my friends, and… certain people in my life :)

my wish in 2013? I’ll keep it for myself. Well, thanks 2012. Thank you for the ups and downs. My life has never been so-not-flat like this before. It was fun and memorable. I’ll never forget!

P.S: Hey, I love you! :)

#mywish to be able to disappear :)

People said hardwork pays. I learned that it doesn’t always pay. Sometimes no matter how hard you try, things just don’t work as you expected.

People said do what you want others to do to you. I learned that it doesn’t work either.

Life has never been fair.

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